I have been having different conversations with women lately. I came to realise that the one thing in common we lacked was time for ourselves. We are so caught up with our work, the spouse, the kids, home, parents and possibly the in-laws, social circles of influence, ministry and the list is endless. We have a thousand people dependent on us. In the grind of our schedules we don’t make the time or find the time to invest in our friendships, have some sort of a renewal, or have a nourished clear mind and body to be able to run the whole show. We may already be on the verge of a burnout and already running around in a tired mom-zombie mode. So let alone the thought of being selfish. The meaning of selfish is ” lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.” The last thing on our mind is to be selfish for our needs. So, here are some valuable insights that could put that perspective in perspective
We have needs: We are just as human as the other members in the family, so we have needs and wants too. So buy that lipstick, get the pedicure or even the spa you have been thinking of. Go out for a coffee with your friends. Do you know when our needs are met, we have so much to give out too?
You cannot give if you do not receive: To be able to be the best wife/ mother/ friend/ daughter and daughter in-law we need be able to give ourselves permission to take a break which is perfectly acceptable as somewhere in the betterment of our children family and everyone else involved we have decided to lose ourselves.
Your life is meant to impact: When you start loving yourself a little more and start being kind, you accept yourself, build on your confidence and overall morale to be the person that you are. Once you are taken care of, think of the number of women out there you can make an impact on!
Here are my recommendations on some selfish self-care:
- Get up before the household does just so that you are recharged, renewed and your mood is set for the day.
- Schedule appointments for yourself just like we squeeze in everyone else’s things to do for the day/ week and month.
- Prioritise your health and nutrition and ensure that you make time for exercise because most often we are the backbone of the family.
- Accept gladly when help is given or offered.
- Stop multitasking because we get overwhelmed at the too – much- to- do.
- Accept occasional failure.
- Just breath.
- Start small.
- Be “STILL”.
- SLEEP!
None of what I listed above has shocked you, so why is it so hard for us to do. I think we forget that we’re stewards of our bodies that God has given us. We focus so much on others that we put ourselves last. In the words of Christian author and speaker LysaTerKeurst, “If your overwhelming schedule has left your soul underwhelmed, then maybe self-care is a good place to start”. What self-care looks like for you may look like something completely different to someone else. The important thing to remember is that caring for yourself is a process, not a one-time magic pill. But one thing we can be sure of is this: Jesus promises real and meaningful rest wherever you find yourself today.
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