Most children bring home a report card that doesn’t look good. The point is the marks don’t meet our expectations and so it not only is disappointing but really upsetting. Here’s how we can help our children to get back on track with a constructive and collaborative effort.
1.Don’t Blow Your Top: It is definitely easy to blow the gasket for their low grades but this is something one of my son’s teachers told me during the parent-teacher meet, “Ma’am don’t judge your son by the marks he gets”. Take some time to step back and review the overall situation. We need to motivate them to work harder in a consistent and systematic manner versus defeating their overall confidence by yelling at them.
2.Talk With the Teachers: Understand from the teacher everything that is going on in class. Is it too many extracurricular activities? Are home-works submitted on time? Is it lack of understanding a concept? Have a discussion with the teacher before charging at them and telling them they are to blame for your child’s academic performance.
3.Talk With the Child: Let the child know that your not happy with the results and make it a point to listen to them, before we get angry. You never know, they could have an insight too to their performance. It may be possible that they have a hard teacher who may or may not be fair in rewarding marks or dealing with doubts they have in a particular concept and subject. Maybe they are distracted or bored and are embarrassed to ask for help.
4.Withhold Privileges: The point of withholding privileges is so that they can maintain a certain discipline. This requires an occasional punishment which could get their attention. Sometimes letting them know your disappointed might be all that’s necessary to turn things around.
Wise discipline imparts wisdom; spoiled adolescents embarrass their parents.
~ King Solomon in Proverbs 19:18; 29:15
5.Create an Action Plan: Brainstorm and come with a study plan or a timetable to help the child be able to complete lessons on a systematic basis. As parents we need to keep realistic goals. It’s too much for us to ask them to get straight A’s in the next test. Monitor the improvements made and ensure positive praise is given to boost their morale.
You can also read up 8 Encouraging Prayers for Students During Exams as additional reading.